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I am reading a very interesting book – Addictions as an Attachment Disorder, by Philip Flores. It is a textbook and so can be very technical and uses the language of the psychiatric and psychological professions – but it might be worth a read if you are a mental health practitioner. It is one of … Continue reading
Triangulation, or triangling as it sometimes known, is a method that one member of a dyadic relationships (2 persons) tries to use to decrease tension or conflict, fix a real or perceived problem and sometimes attempts to use to improve and/or facilitate communication. Triangling was originally developed as a psychological term by the psychiatrist Murray … Continue reading
This was the content of the message I gave at our Prodigal worship service on 3-2-19. Prodigal is a special service for addicts and their families. It might seem a little long; I decided to post it all at one time instead of breaking the games out and publishing it in pieces. We were focusing … Continue reading
In my counseling practice, I give people homework. Homework helps keep the number of sessions in check and gives me a gauge on the willingness of my counselees to change. Willingness is a major factor in the level of success the counselee will have in their effort to make their life better. A great deal … Continue reading
This is part of a series of tools I am writing to help those who struggle with emotional regulation. Opposite Action (OA) is the term psychologists use to describe a technique that is designed to help a person regulate emotions, where those emotions lead to poor outcomes in life’s situations, that involves deliberate behavior change. … Continue reading
Below I am laying out a “Letting Go” exercise I use. Have a therapist help you through it, particularly if the thing you want to let go of is traumatic in nature. It can be done as homework or in real time in a therapy session. Also note that a good therapist will be able … Continue reading
Hawkins, David PhD. When Loving Him is Hurting You. Eugene, OR. Harvest House Publishers, 2017. ISBN 978-0736969819 On the front cover it says this: “Hope and help for women dealing with narcissism and emotional abuse.” I liked this book, and as a therapist I will be able to suggest that some of my clients read … Continue reading
I seem to have run across marriages where the male partner appears to exhibit narcissistic and/or borderline personality disorder traits or characteristics in the recent past. I find myself listening to wives who describe eerily similar situations in their marital relationship. An example would be “I have to walk on eggshells around him!” Wives who … Continue reading
Loneliness is a major debilitating emotional state. God knew this was going to become true after the fall of mankind into sin, so he said this in His word: Gen 2:18 – Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for … Continue reading
In previous blogs I have identified behaviors, which I called intimacy destroyers and/or intimacy busters, which spouses engage in within the marriage relationship. In this essay I am going to cover conduct that we habitually demonstrate in our external relationships that may also pose a risk to the intimacy in a marriage. To do this … Continue reading
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