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applyingmybeliefs

I am originally from the UK, haved lived in Saudi Arabia, and now live in Katy, Texas. I am a Christian who Has an interest in applying my knowledge, understanding and beliefs to what I see going on in the world around me.
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Marital Intimate Respect

This is the last in a series of 10 exercises posted on intimacy in marriage. Respect doesn’t get the respect it deserves!  Respect is a very tricky and deceptive characteristic of intimacy when it is not understood.  In some ways it is the hardest attribute of intimacy to practice well.  Respect in marriage is about … Continue reading

Marital Intimate Appreciation

This is the ninth in a series of 10 exercises dealing with intimacy in marriage. One of the most common statements marriage counselors hear is “He/she doesn’t appreciate me or what I do around here!”  It carries with it emotions of frustration, disappointment, hurt and oftentimes anger develops, which in-turn develops into resentments or bitterness.  … Continue reading

Marital Intimate Security

This is number 8 of 10 posts dealing with intimacy in marriage. Security in the context of intimacy is not about physical wellbeing, or having enough money to pay bills and retire – even though those things are important.  Security is about the heart.  It centers around this scripture, which applies to believers and non-believers … Continue reading

Marital Intimate Acceptance

This is the seventh post in a series of exercises dealing with intimacy in marriage.  Acceptance is a big thing; it is almost as big as love.  When we are not accepted we have a sense of something called rejection.  Being rejected often leaves us with feelings of unworthiness, failure, shame and isolation.  When we … Continue reading

Marital Intimate Comfort

When we think of comfort, pictures of one person trying to reduce or remove the pain of another come to mind.  But it often is provided at a low level of, or with no, connection.  For some, comfort means food, as they dig into the freezer to attack the ice cream in an attempt to … Continue reading

Marital Intimate Approval

This is the fifth in a series of 10 intimacy exercises that I’ll publish over the next few weeks. The word “approval” may initially seem like a strange word to associate with intimacy it is a word we mostly associate with building plans, with international treaties and so on – legitimate, governmental activity.  However it … Continue reading

Marital Intimate Encouragement

So often the practice of encouraging one another in a marriage is put aside in favor of shining a light on the things we don’t like about each other, or criticizing the actions of the people we say we love.  Encouragement is a fundamental part of being intimate with one another.  We all need encouragement … Continue reading

Marital Intimate Support

This is the third in a series of 10 exercises written for couples who desire to become closer in their marriage.  This one deals with one of the more practical aspects of intimacy, how we support one another in everyday life. Sometimes spouses talk about “being there” for one another.  This is what we are … Continue reading

Marital Intimate Affection

A few days ago I published a “marital intimacy attention” exercise.  Here is a second exercise in a series I’m writing, this one deals with the little things that demonstrate affection in a marriage. Affection is an important part of being and staying connected in all strong, healthy and intimate marital relationships.  When it is … Continue reading

Marital Intimate Attention

This is an exercise that helps build intimacy in marriages that I give to couples who struggle with communication or connecting with each other. This is an intimacy exercise that is designed to become a permanent part of a couple’s interactive life, a new healthy habit.  For many of us not being heard by our … Continue reading