I am originally from the UK, haved lived in Saudi Arabia, and now live in Katy, Texas. I am a Christian who Has an interest in applying my knowledge, understanding and beliefs to what I see going on in the world around me.
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Asking For help

A few weeks ago I wrote a blog called “Mental Illness in a Genesis 3 World”, and I got a lot of feedback.  One of the more interesting questions was this (or a variation of it), “What are some examples of ordinary things we do that could be looked at as poor mental health.”  So … Continue reading

Looking at Losses

What follows below is an assignment I sometimes use for those who are struggling with chronic depression or anxiety.  It is called a “Loss Inventory.”  It is an attempt to lay out the past and look at it with fresh eyes and rework the individual’s story.  It really is useful for counselors, 12-Step sponsors (as … Continue reading

Book Review – Grace for the Afflicted

A good basic primer for Christians who want to understand mental illnesses in the context of their faith. Stanford, Matthew S.  Grace for the Afflicted.  Downers Grove, IL.  Intervarsity Press, 2008.   ISBN 978-0830856749 This book is subtitled “A Clinical and Biblical Perspective on Mental Illness.” I would say this is a psychoeducational book that is … Continue reading

Book Review – Collateral Damage

  Chirban, John T.  Collateral Damage.  Nashville, TN.  Thomas Nelson, 2017.   ISBN 978-0718079888 This book is subtitled “Guiding and Protecting Your Child Through the Minefield of Divorce.” By the time I finished this book I was shaking my head about all the mistakes I made during my divorce over 30 years ago.  This book is … Continue reading

Mental Illness in a Genesis 3 World

It has long bothered me that churches and/or Christians are not leading the way in addressing and helping those with obvious mental illness in the modern world.  So I want to speak about why I have this position in this blog. To get everyone’s attention let me say this controversial thing: Every human that has … Continue reading

Marital Intimate Respect

This is the last in a series of 10 exercises posted on intimacy in marriage. Respect doesn’t get the respect it deserves!  Respect is a very tricky and deceptive characteristic of intimacy when it is not understood.  In some ways it is the hardest attribute of intimacy to practice well.  Respect in marriage is about … Continue reading

Marital Intimate Appreciation

This is the ninth in a series of 10 exercises dealing with intimacy in marriage. One of the most common statements marriage counselors hear is “He/she doesn’t appreciate me or what I do around here!”  It carries with it emotions of frustration, disappointment, hurt and oftentimes anger develops, which in-turn develops into resentments or bitterness.  … Continue reading

Marital Intimate Security

This is number 8 of 10 posts dealing with intimacy in marriage. Security in the context of intimacy is not about physical wellbeing, or having enough money to pay bills and retire – even though those things are important.  Security is about the heart.  It centers around this scripture, which applies to believers and non-believers … Continue reading

Marital Intimate Acceptance

This is the seventh post in a series of exercises dealing with intimacy in marriage.  Acceptance is a big thing; it is almost as big as love.  When we are not accepted we have a sense of something called rejection.  Being rejected often leaves us with feelings of unworthiness, failure, shame and isolation.  When we … Continue reading

Marital Intimate Comfort

When we think of comfort, pictures of one person trying to reduce or remove the pain of another come to mind.  But it often is provided at a low level of, or with no, connection.  For some, comfort means food, as they dig into the freezer to attack the ice cream in an attempt to … Continue reading