I am originally from the UK, haved lived in Saudi Arabia, and now live in Katy, Texas. I am a Christian who Has an interest in applying my knowledge, understanding and beliefs to what I see going on in the world around me.
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Book Review – When Loving Him is Hurting You

Hawkins, David PhD.  When Loving Him is Hurting You.  Eugene, OR.  Harvest House Publishers, 2017.   ISBN 978-0736969819 On the front cover it says this: “Hope and help for women dealing with narcissism and emotional abuse.” I liked this book, and as a therapist I will be able to suggest that some of my clients read … Continue reading

Methods and Signs of Emotional Abuse

I seem to have run across marriages where the male partner appears to exhibit narcissistic and/or borderline personality disorder traits or characteristics in the recent past.  I find myself listening to wives who describe eerily similar situations in their marital relationship.  An example would be “I have to walk on eggshells around him!” Wives who … Continue reading

Defeating Loneliness

Loneliness is a major debilitating emotional state.  God knew this was going to become true after the fall of mankind into sin, so he said this in His word: Gen 2:18 – Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for … Continue reading

Behavioral Risks to Intimacy

In previous blogs I have identified behaviors, which I called intimacy destroyers and/or intimacy busters, which spouses engage in within the marriage relationship.  In this essay I am going to cover conduct that we habitually demonstrate in our external relationships that may also pose a risk to the intimacy in a marriage.  To do this … Continue reading

Book Review – Love Thy Body

Pearcey Nancy R.  (2018)  Love Thy Body.  Grand Rapids, MI.  Baker Books.   ISBN 978-0801075728 This book is subtitled “Answering Hard Questions about Life and Sexuality.” Nancy Pearcey is a professor of Apologetics for HBU, a Scholar-in-Residence, and director of the Center for Christian Worldview.  For more information go to: http://www.HBU.edu/ChristianThought and NancyPearcey.com This is worth … Continue reading

Headship, Submission and Intimacy

In this blog, we are going to link the biblical instructions for wives to submit to their husbands, and for husbands to provide headship to their wives with that seemingly elusive thing we call intimacy. This verse seems to be controversial: Eph 5:22 – Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. In … Continue reading

Peacebreaker, Peacekeeper or Peacemaker?

I have recently been reflecting on the idea of anxiety being the absence of peace, and come now to looking at how some anxiety can be created in a marriage.  What if there was something we could do to reduce the chance that anxiety can be initiated, or made less likely to happen, or be … Continue reading

Intimacy and Anxiety in Marriage

When considering the many things that negatively affect intimacy in a marriage, it can be said that anxiety might be one of the top issues.  In this blog we are going to take a look at this and attempt to get some understanding of what is at work and what to do about it. The … Continue reading

Science – Watch Out!

I regularly get pointed at scientific studies that I am instinctively cautious about.  Maybe I am just cynical!  Here are some examples – with my comments: Psychological/Sociological Studies Many people know I do counseling, and so they direct my attention to various studies.  Sex addiction studies that show men are mostly to blame for sexual … Continue reading

Rehab Review – Serenity Light Recovery

Author’s note – I was one of the two Merimnao representatives that made the visit discussed below. Report on Visit to Serenity Light Recovery 5-5-2018 – Seen below: Merimnao representatives made a visit to Serenity Light Recovery, a drug and alcohol rehabilitation center near Angleton, Texas on May 3rd, 2018.  These are our general findings. … Continue reading