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applyingmybeliefs

I am originally from the UK, haved lived in Saudi Arabia, and now live in Katy, Texas. I am a Christian who Has an interest in applying my knowledge, understanding and beliefs to what I see going on in the world around me.
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Not Your Usual NANA

The word NANA conjures up pictures of mothers with a lot of experience, grandmothers.  But today we’re going to give a whole new meaning to that word.  In fact we are going to convert it into an acronym and apply it to the world of interpersonal relationships.  NANA is: N – Nurtured A – Abandoned … Continue reading

About Love Addicts and Love Avoidants

It is a peculiar thing to see.  Contrary to human logic love addicts and love avoidants seem to consistently find each other and pair off.  In our humanness we might expect to find two love addicts to pair off, because they are both looking for the same thing, a highly intimate deep and fulfilling relationship.  … Continue reading

Intimacy and Human Relational Design

This posting is part of what I am going to discuss in an “Intimacy in Marriage” class I am teaching at my church – The Fellowship, in Katy TX.  (www.thefellowship.org). Having a God-centered comprehension of intimacy is a key to having a good understanding of human design and relationships.  This understanding, together with knowing what … Continue reading

Book Review – Intimacy Anorexia

Weiss, Douglas.  Intimacy Anorexia.  Colorado Springs, CO.  Discovery Press, 2010.   ISBN 978-1881292265 This book is subtitled “Healing the Hidden Addiction in Your Marriage.” Douglas Weiss is the Clinical Director of Heart to Heart Counseling center in Colorado Springs, Co.  He is also President of the American Association of Sex Addiction Therapy (aasat.org). This book was … Continue reading

Book Review – The Intimacy Factor

Mellody, Pia.  The Intimacy Factor.  New York, NY.  Harper Collins, 2004.   ISBN 978-0060095802 This book is subtitled “The Ground Rules for Overcoming the Obstacles to Truth, Respect and Lasting Love.” Pia Mellody is a member of the faculty at The Meadows, a highly respected addiction treatment center in Arizona. A colleague of the author, the … Continue reading

Defensiveness Hurts Our Important Relationships

This will be the seventh in the series I’m writing about normal things we do that indicate we have poor mental health.  So far we’ve looked at these subjects: Asking for Help – How we don’t reach out when we ought to. Inner Permission – How we have faulty decision making processes. Seeking Nurturing – … Continue reading

What is Intimacy?

I have written this as a part of my preparation for teaching an “Intimacy in Marriage” class, so contextually it is about connection within biblical marriages.  But it is still useful to read and develop an understanding of this powerful concept that we call intimacy. Intimacy is a difficult construct to grasp.  Dial the word … Continue reading

Racism is Inferior

This is the sixth in the series I’m writing about normal things we do that indicate we have poor mental health.  So far we’ve looked at these subjects: Asking for Help – How we don’t reach out when we ought to. Inner Permission – How we have faulty decision making processes. Seeking Nurturing – How … Continue reading

Book Review – Sexual Anorexia

Carnes, Patrick.  Sexual Anorexia- Overcoming Sexual Self-Hatred.  Center City, MN.  Hazelden, 1997.   ISBN 978-1568381442 Carnes describes “Sexual Anorexia” by using behaviors to define what it is, and doesn’t provide the reader with something definitional.  Typically it is defined as something like, “lack of desire for sexual contact.”  Carnes may be smart to not define it, … Continue reading

Delight in Being Right

This is the fifth in the series I’m writing about normal things we do that indicate we have poor mental health.  So far we’ve looked at these subjects: Asking for Help – How we don’t reach out when we ought to. Inner Permission – How we have faulty decision making processes. Seeking Nurturing – How … Continue reading